My MIL Ruined Our Daughter’s Tiny Kitchen ‘For Her Own Good’ – We Taught Her Actions Have Consequences

Grace and Simon’s unique parenting approach sparked a clash with Simon’s mother, Eleanor. When a seemingly innocent set-up for their daughter’s independence was sabotaged, the family’s unity hung by a thread. How far would they go to defend their choices?

My husband Simon and I have a five-year-old daughter named Hope, and I’m six months pregnant with a boy. Our lives are busy but filled with joy. As parents, Simon and I believe in giving Hope autonomy, especially when it comes to food.

A pregnant couple with their little daughter | Source: Midjourney

We want her to understand her body’s needs and make healthy choices. To support this, we set up a cute little semi-functional kitchen for her.

“Simon, do you think the pump is strong enough?” I asked one Saturday morning, watching him fiddle with the tiny sink. He smiled, brushing a strand of hair from his face.

“It’ll do the job, Grace. Just wait and see. Hope is going to love it.”

The little kitchen had a mini fridge and a sink Simon rigged up with a weak pump. Hope kept her snacks there: everything from bananas to chocolates.

A little girl preparing a salad in her semi-functional mini kitchen setup | Source: Midjourney

She could grab what she wanted and even “cook” little things like fruit salad or muesli. Dangerous stuff was off-limits, of course, but she loved helping us cook. This setup meant she didn’t go nuts over candy or chips because she could have them whenever she wanted.

Hope adored her kitchen. “Mommy, look! I made a fruit salad!” she’d exclaim, proudly holding up a bowl of chopped bananas and strawberries.

“That looks delicious, sweetheart!” I’d reply, giving her a big hug.
But not everyone was a fan of our parenting choices. My mother-in-law, Eleanor, was staying with us for a while, and she had very different views. She thought we were going to make Hope obese by allowing her to have snacks whenever she wanted.

“Grace, this is absurd,” Eleanor said one afternoon, watching Hope munch on a muesli bar. “She’s going to spoil her dinner.”

“Mom, it’s fine. She knows what she needs,” Simon responded gently. “She won’t overeat.”
But not everyone was a fan of our parenting choices. My mother-in-law, Eleanor, was staying with us for a while, and she had very different views. She thought we were going to make Hope obese by allowing her to have snacks whenever she wanted.

“Grace, this is absurd,” Eleanor said one afternoon, watching Hope munch on a muesli bar. “She’s going to spoil her dinner.”

“Mom, it’s fine. She knows what she needs,” Simon responded gently. “She won’t overeat.”

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